The "Mommy" Perspective
Does Daddy hear baby crying?
I was chatting with a friend a few weeks ago and we got into a friendly discussion (ahem) about our husbands and how they never hear the baby cry at night. NEVER!
In fact, in both of our cases, our husbands have to be repeatedly spoken to and nudged (ok, kicked) in order to wake up, even if the baby is crying hysterically. To add insult to injury, though, my aforementioned friend's husband claimed there was a study done proving that men are not able to hear a baby's cry at night and that's why he never woke up.
When daddy goes deaf
I mentioned this topic at a mom group I attend and almost every mother there said the same thing- their men don't ever hear the baby cry once they have fallen asleep.
So, I did a quick search. And this is what I came up with: When Daddy Goes Deaf.
According to this study, men are not conditioned to wake up to the cries of a baby. In fact, it doesn't even make the top 10 list of sounds most likely to wake a man up. Hmmmm... so, as the article claims, while a woman's maternal instinct kicks in when a baby cries, a man's instinct kicks in when a car alarm goes off or the wind howls. Really? Interesting.
So I cut my husband a bit of slack. He apparently wasn't the only father who was incapable of waking up to the sound of a crying baby.
But do I buy the study?? Well, yes and no.
In my own, informal, ranting and raving with other moms, I have noticed that almost no father's wake up when their baby cries over the monitor at night. The study seems to back up the theory that men really don't hear the cries -- they're not just pretending.
However, it makes me wonder... how many men were conducting this study and how many of them have or had crying babies at home? Huh?
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**Sarah, mom of one, is discovering that babies don't come with manuals! She was totally not prepared for the all encompassing love she feels for her first child or for the huge challenges motherhood presents. Follow Sarah's adventures as she navigates this journey of motherhood as a Mom Without a Map.